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writing has always been cathartic for me. it’s been a while since I actually used this blog as a outlet.

I had to write an eulogy for my grandma. It was the hardest thing I ever had to write. It started off easy, I had an idea for the direction of the eulogy. Memories came flooding and the words just flowed. Then I burst into tears, at the realisation that she would really be gone after I read out my eulogy for her.

It’s been a long while since I have had to grieve for a closed one. The last one being my maternal grandfather and even then, I wasn’t close to him cos he wasn’t always around.

This time round, she was someone who had been a big part of my life and she had also gotten to know my kids, well, some of my kids depending on where her memory failed. She definitely remembered Oliver, the rest, probably a little hazy.

It all started on 25th March when she first got admitted for UTI. A week’s staycation, then home for a week, and then back in the hospital for another 2 weeks, home for 2 weeks, and then she left us on 5th May in her home.

There were moments of quiet when I visited her at the hospital and when she was awake enough, she would see me and then smile. I would hold her hand and she would then pat me on the face if I was close enough and made a funny face at her. Those pats, seemed like pats of assurance and her comforting me. It was easy to think that she was already 96 and that she had led a good life. But it was hard to let go.

Listening to the doctor explain her CT scans (thank God I didn’t forget my neuropsych) was painful. Hearing the doctor say that Mama probably had dementia for the past 10 years was a revelation. None of us would have known. She acknowledged us when we visited, never had tantrums (something I would have thought dementia patients would do). Then again, we had no reason to suspect she had dementia, given that we rarely carried a conversation with her cos she was hard of hearing. She was just quietly sitting in her wheelchair and watching us, smiling when she caught us looking at her.

There were tears a plenty. It was a loss after all. The first thought that came to mind as I stood in her room, ‘have fun with Kong Kong, don’t nag him too much.’ Her husband passed away 27 years ago. I wouldn’t be sure I could survive that long without Donald..haha.

Do I have any regrets? Fortunately, no. At least I felt that I spent enough time possible with her since she got admitted. I couldn’t bring the kids along, but it bought me a lot of time with her, coaxing her to drink, to try to eat, make movements and taking a lot of photos with her. I got to celebrate her birthday with her, with a balloon and a slice of cake.

But it doesn’t make the loss any lesser. Oliver wasn’t super tactful when he caught me crying (‘what now..?’roll eyes* haha dammit you brat), and Quentin would come over and stroke my arm when he saw me crying. Sarah would of course whinge when she saw me crying in Donald’s arms (‘MAMA!!’) and tried to pull us apart. The crying took a few days; I..just wasn’t ready to say bye yet. And Donald encouraged it, haha I think he rather knows how I am feeling than to hide it in.

And then you get the random Quentin quirks:

Quentin: mummy, is it cos Chor Chor eat alot that’s why she die?
Me: no..she is very old that’s why she died.
Quentin: *sees me spooning macaroni into my bowl* mummy, i don’t want you to eat. You cannot eat.
Me: why?
Quentin: because if you eat alot, you will grow old fast and then you will die. I love you and I don’t want you to die.
Me: *?* oh Quentin, I still have many years to go..and I need to eat some food so I don’t fall sick too. Okay, how about I eat a little each day so I don’t grow old too fast?
Quentin: *perks up a little* okay! Just a little every day ok? So you dun grow so fast. Only I can grow so fast.
Me: Quentin, I will try n live as long as possible for you. Mummy wants to watch you grow up too.

Then we had a chat about him growing up, how one day he may become a daddy, travel on his own, cook for us and grow old.

It obviously set off the waterworks that afternoon.

I didn’t really like what I was feeling to be honest, the crying coupled with swinging hormones wasn’t a good combo. I kept reading the eulogy I wrote as it had a lot of memories of her and me. I thought if I kept reading it, I would not forget about her. I would end up in tears each time I read it. I was afraid that if I accepted that she was gone, the memories I had of her would somehow vanish, like she wasn’t a part of my life. That her gone, would be a new norm. It took many talks with the hubby before I came to a compromise/understanding. He reminded me that the memories were here to stay, regardless of her gone or not.

She was there in the many photos I have together with her. And they won’t disappear.

It took awhile. But I read the eulogy for the last time, I had another good cry. And then I said a quiet bye. Bye Mama. 

The days are better, but there are moments when I get reminded about something and the tears start welling. Heck, just even watching a video about a girl and her grandma trigger the tears. Poor Donald came in to find his wife sobbing away at her desk and he had to stand there comforting me till I could stop crying.

So super thankful for Donald who was a champ and handled the three kids whilst I attended the wake. He took over once I was done putting Sarah down for a nap. And he put all 3 to bed for a couple of nights! It gave me more time to spend with family and my late grandma. Thankful for the help from my mil who cooked for the kids so that they don’t have to eat junk food nor do I have to worry about meals.

I still miss you terribly. But I do know that you are in a better place, so I will seek comfort in that you are in the arms of my Heavenly Father. 

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October Babies Bash: [Review] The Private Kitchen Catering

The Private Kitchen Catering set up

With every event, obviously we’d need to think about food! Our catering decision was a little last minute as we had to see how much budget we had left.

So so so thankful that The Private Kitchen was able to take us in at such late notice! And if you are looking for good food and awesome service? They have got it. Mind you, this is not a sponsored post hor. We paid for the catering, though Lynda, the founder, was kind enough to provide us with some freebies!

Firstly, service. When I first looked at their menu, I was a little crestfallen. None of the packages fit our budget. Hahah. Like damn cham can. Like how were we going to feed 65 adults, 21 kids and 43 toddlers! Okay, granted the mummies would have prepped food for the toddlers lah. But still a significant number of people.

I spoke with Lynda about our event, the number of adults, kids and toddlers. We discussed the menu according to our budget and I thought I’d try my luck and ask if they could cook a simple dish and cater to the toddlers. To be honest, I have never heard of anyone doing it before. And oh my tian, Lynda decided to step up to it. She informed me that she will prepare something for the toddlers.

Woah. Okay!

As we went through the menu, she also made sure that the menu she suggested would be suitable for the kids. Instead of a sweet & sour fish, she suggested a fish fillet and fish balls as finger foods for the kids. She also proposed that we did 50% noodles, 50% fried rice so that we would have more variety.

For the toddlers, it was something very simple. A porridge cooked in chicken stock, potato and carrots. No msg. And she even asked if around 200ml per toddler was sufficient! That morning of the event, she went and taste tested the porridge, took a picture and sent it to me.

So much love!

morning taste test

It was genuinely a pleasure liasing with her. There was a lot of thought going into this catering process and the mummies definitely appreciated it! There were a lot of cheer going on within our chatgroup when they found out they didn’t need to wake up early to prep food for the toddlers! Hahaha, extra sleep is a bonus hor!

Soo, let the photos do the talking and there is a Christmas & Lunar New Year 2018 promo that I’ll share with you after!

yummy food!

Top left to right: No MSG! (must stress that!)
Set up, Fried Rice, Emperor Noodles
Chicken Curry, Spinach Tofu, Fish Fillet
Fishballs, Complimentary Cream puffs,White Fungus Apple Longan Dessert,  Porridge

We also had pink guava juice which I didn’t take photos of.

Close up!

The spinach tofu, chicken curry and noodles were a hit! I loved the dessert cos it was so refreshing after emceeing/yelling my head off hahaha.

Yummy porridge suitable for our palate and tummies!

Nyuuum

Mummy gets to enjoy too!

I have to give it to the crew who climbed up 2 flights of stairs to the function room. Just two of them and they were lugging it and down. Xin ku ni men le!

All empty!

Were the portions enough? To be honest, we can’t tell. We did feel that they weren’t enough cos some of us didn’t get to it much, or didn’t get to eat any at all! But we can’t tell if there was enough and there just wasn’t any food left cos the food was too yummy that people ate more than what was enough for them. Hahaha. So you know ah, if you order from The Private Kitchen, fastest fingers first hor! We had mummies tabaoing the curry chicken home (oh the bottom bits were the best, cos all the good stuff is at the bottom!), and porridge too! I didn’t even get to eat the cream puffs! Lynda had so kindly given us some cream puffs as desserts for the kids!

GO WHERE AND FIND SUCH THOUGHTFUL CATERER?? The committee members were very impressed. I am really glad we went with them.

So yes, for the Christmas & Lunar New Year promo! The Private Kitchen is offering the following:

Christmas Promo
– complimentary Delightful Christmas Chocolate Cream Puffs with orders above $250

Lunar New Year 2018 Promo
– complimentary Fortune Ingots with orders above $388 (the ingots are like fried dumplings)

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Category: Food, Reviews, Special

October Babies Bash 2017

It was a group chat formed in July 2016, a couple of months before any of us were going to give birth in October. All of our EDDs were in October but then you have outliers like Sarah who chose to be one of the two seniors in the entire group to be born in September.

To be honest, I had been apprehensive about joining this chatgroup. I am sociable but I wasn’t sure how it would pan out in a WhatsApp chat group. One thing did lead to another, late nights chats, and we would chat about ANYTHING under the sun. And I mean, ANYTHING. ahem. Ignoring your phone for 3 hours would mean you would have missed out on over 500 messages. If the topic was hot, probably about 1000.

Post delivery, the speed at which the conversation moves is a lot slower, no thanks to the toddlers, but the chat is still very much alive; catching up on the milestones of the little ones, senior mummies advising on baby ailments and milestone developments. It never stops. Even I would ask for some advise about raising a girl. Good grief, talk about going back to square one and a steep learning curve.

Earlier this year, we decided that we needed a party to celebrate the 1 year milestone. Everyone would be busy celebrating their little ones’ birthdays in Sep/Oct/Nov, so we figured early Dec would be a good date. Yesterday, 43 mummies and 45 toddlers celebrated this 1 year milestone. It was so nice to meet up with everyone and put a face to the names in person! Okay, I was being quite rude asking ‘who are you??’ each time someone came in and registered. Sorry lah, I only see you guys once a year.

So ladies and gentlemen, here is the m&m’s themed #oct16mummiesnmonsters bash.

EDD Oct 2016 family

Sarah was comfortably sleeping on Daddy Ting so she isn’t in the photo. Bummer! But hey, we just DON’T wake a sleeping toddler okay. Good grief.

The entire planning took around 6 months. We had intended for the gathering to be a relatively gradual one, but it snowballed into a full scale event, with proper catering (none of the pizzas, KFC, zhi char stuff), and awesome sponsors and vendors.

Don’t get me started on our committee, of which I am apart of. I love it that I am working with real people who genuinely want the best for the mummies who are attending this bash; from planning the theme, to getting sponsored products that we believe would be useful for our mummies, to working on decor. Everyone was hands on. Come on, you guys are dream team okay! So much love for you guys.

Committee members and their little ones

Really thankful for the husbands who were hands on deck. From lugging boxes and boxes of stuff from the car to the 2nd floor (no lift FML), to helping out with the kids. Daddy Ting, you are da best! Look, he isn’t one to attend such events. In fact, he was supposed to just help offload the stuff and go home. But he decided that….he needs to be there for his baby girl so he hung around till the end of the event. #daddytingrawks kekekeke. Nah, bestest husband of the year award go to you liao!

Now, move on to the serious stuff liao. The sponsors. You have my utmost gratitude. Thank you for believing in us, and so generously sponsoring these items for our event. 45 goodie bags were prepared, and our mummies are impressed at the goodies that went into it. We went from having only 18 prizes for our lucky draw to prizes for everyone. *mindblown* We had only requested that you sponsor items that are suitable for our age group but some of you have gone beyond and offered us even more.

On behalf of our mummies group, THANK YOU.

45 goodie bags lined up

Prize table!

Unbagging commenced once the mummies got home! I mean that is the highlight of the event right

Emptying out the goodie bags to see what we have!

Thanks to the following sponsors for our goodie bag:

 

Lucky draw prizes:

Other sponsors:

Many thanks again to our sponsors who made it happen! These sponsors were approached because we believe in their products and some of us were using them. Good grief..if you only see the number of group buys we have for the snacks! hahaha.

I will be writing reviews for some of the products we have received so you can get a better understanding of them. Along with these reviews will be some giveaways so do stay tuned!

Overall, I reckon it was a successful bash! All the mummies and kids enjoyed themselves.

Unloading the cars.

WTH. We made so many trips up and down 2 flights of stairs and I only clocked like 4.5k steps. The calories lost was WAAAY more than the steps hor. There were still another 2 cars to unload. haha.

Catering provided by The Private Kitchen

pre-event chaos

photos of our babies done up by one of our mummies!

sorting out for registration.

So thankful for one of the husbands of our mummies who stationed himself at the registration to help us out. I think really have to give the daddies a lot of credit leh!!

Self set up dessert table with goodies from various contributions!

m&ms diaper cake and a jarful of m&ms for a game!

We were thinking of a simple game that everyone could participate in so we decided to have a ‘guess the number of m&ms’ game. The counting was done by yours truly and it took me 2 hours to sort and count according to colours cos got 5 diff types of flavours! Nearly forgot the number of m&ms in the jar hahaha Heng I WhatsApp-ed the hubby the number after I counted.

the gleeful winner.

really gotta give it to the husband of this mummy as he sat next to the jar for a super long time counting! and his was the closest, 688. The total number is 710! Me? Just thankful to not have to inhale chocolate fumes for a while haha. Sugar high lohh. They joked about keeping it for kiddo till he is 18 and giving it to him.

Oribel Portaplay, fun for the kids!

So glad I decided to bring the Portaplay to the bash. I mean, it’s so convenient to pack and bring along! Raised the legs one notch and it was set to go. I love it that kids could be around the table playing with the various attachments.

Squeezed in one Thermos demo, I’ll be writing about that in the next couple of posts and you’ll see why!!

sharing porridge cooked in Thermos food jar

So how do we know that the event was a success? hahaha

Babies KO!

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