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co-sleeping

happy birthday Ollie!

happy birthday Ollie!

so the monster is finally turning one this Sunday. as he approaches the first year of his life, I kinda start to look at him differently. The days of him being an infant..is kinda hazy, but the videos of his milestones remind me of how we passed those days together.

A couple of posts go, I wrote about how Ollie was having some trouble with his sleep. Previously when he was nursing every 2 hours, back in November 2012, Donald would give me a hand by helping me put Ollie to sleep just so that Ollie would be just as comfortable with Donald as he was with me putting him to sleep. This would mean that if he were to wake again at 11pm and I was already asleep, Donald would be able to put him to sleep without him having to nurse.

We worked at it then, and it worked. Ollie started being able to sleep longer (about 4 -5 hours a stretch) and I was getting the needed sleep. We went to Melaka, he fell sick, separation anxiety kicked in and everything went haywire. We waited till he was better before trying what we succeeded with before.

Except that this time we were dealing with an older and wiser Oliver. And the “problem” escalated with him crying the moment we put him in the baby carrier to pat him to sleep. Aiiiiii. For the past two weeks or so, Ollie would nurse before bedtime, and instead of falling to sleep, he became awake. Donald would take over to pat him to sleep and the crying would begin. Depending on how tired he was, he may fall asleep in the carrier, if not I may have to step in to nurse him to sleep in the carrier again. I was getting tired and it was frustrating. He wouldn’t sleep easily even if he nursed to sleep. I would put him in his cot and he would suddenly wake up again, and we’d have to start allll over. After the third time one night, I placed him back into his cot and I walked out of his room. I was going to do something drastic if I were going to stay in his room. I woke Donald and he took over. Less than 10 mins later, he was back in our room and the monster was asleep. The cheek!!

It was this medley of confusing actions that was tearing me apart. Nursing sometimes made him more awake. Sometimes he would sleep shortly when Donald puts him to sleep. Other times, he would fuss/cry for ages in the carrier, signing that he wanted to nurse even though he just nursed earlier. *groan*

So last night, I threw in the towel at 2am, and brought him into our bed. Now, I had been strongly against co-sleeping. I know the benefits, but I need my space to sleep, and I get backaches and neckaches when I co-sleep with Ollie (tried before), and Ollie has fallen off the bed twice when co-sleeping, and I got the evil eye from Donald which REALLY doesn’t help the situation. But I was really tired. I have had enough.

And we had better sleep. I wasn’t jarred awake by the crying broadcasted by the baby monitor, Ollie slept better and nursed only once (which was 3 hours later) and with Donald somewhat doing the active co-sleeping, I had better sleep.

Looks like we’ll be doing this for awhile to readjust Ollie’s sleep before he goes back to his room.

beauty sleep

the lazy bum bum

the past few weeks have been a little trying with Oliver and his sleeping patterns. One that has resulted in me taking naps together with him, both morning and afternoon nap. I needed those naps to be able to function and care for Ollie during the day. It got bad enough for me one night to tell Donald to take the morning off so I could sleep in.

I, for the life of me, could not figure out what brought upon the change in sleep patterns. We suspected the following:-
1) separation anxiety at night; or
2) brain activity due to motor & cognitive development

It was only lately that we thought it might be because he was sleeping too much during the day. He had been pulling longer naps without fussing in between. I was happy with that. I mean, I no longer had to soothe him to sleep again 30 mins into the nap!

I was telling D, free time during naps are so hard to give up. Those times, especially in the late arvo, allow me to prep stuff for dinner, tidy up the house a little more before Donald gets home and to chill after the morning and early arvo. But if it might disrupting Ollie’s sleep at night, I would have to reassess the situation.

So I would not soothe Ollie if he woke up after 30 mins into his second nap. That way, he would tire out and sleep earlier, and no longer past 9pm. Bedtime was brought back to 8.30pm, though by the time he settled down and actually slept, it would usually still be 9pm. He would also wake up earlier, at 7am instead of 8.30am.

It seemed to work so far. He slept for longer periods, ie, 3-4 hrs before fussing. I was slowly getting my sanity back and he was still sleeping long naps but waking earlier in the arvo.

So much trial and error. Phew. Now the next step would be to move him into his own room as we are suspecting he wakes up at the 3-4 hr mark because we are getting ready for bed. The noise may be waking him.

And I would have to get used to walking into the next room to soothe him if he fusses. Gaah..*grumbles*

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fighting sleep

definitely not me. I am already sleep deprived as it is. Pfffpt.

The monster has been fighting naps lately. Not sure if it’s because his motor skills are developing and there is a need for him to explore as much as possible. Not sure if it’s because he is teething, since his 3rd tooth is out and may be cutting his 4th. Not sure if it’s because I’m not feeding him enough.

At 7.5 months, Oliver’s got a pretty permanent routine (which is going down the drain after these two weeks I reckon..):

0700 : Wakes

0930 : Feeds & goes down for a 0.5 hr – 1.5 hr nap

1100 : Wakes & playtime

1300 : Lunch consisting of oatmeal & fruit

1500 : Small feed & goes down for another 1 hr nap

1600 : Wakes & playtime

1900 : Dinner consisting of oatmeal, veg puree & fruit

2000 : Bath time

2030 : Feed, & asleep by 2100

0100 : Wakes for a feed

0500: Wakes for a feed

However, for the past couple of days, he has been fighting his morning naps. Usually he would get sleepy at about 9am, and then after feeding him, he would sleep pretty much immediately. Now, putting him down for that nap involves him fussing & whinging away and me trying to soothe him for about 20 mins. And when he is tired out, he will just crash out in 2 mins. Gaah..

Just hoping it’s a phase cos he is napping in an unfamiliar environment! Apart from that…I had a beautiful 4 hour sleep when Ollie decided to sleep all the way from 9pm – 3.30am, skipping the 1am feed. Sweet!

 

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