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Day 24/2021: how did it fly?

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Happened to read a couple of instagram posts that absolutely resonated with my life, that I took a double take. It’s 24th Jan, the year 2021. My kids have been in school for the past 20 days (well, less the weekends). How has life been so far?

Busy. I had an awesome 1st week. Dropped the kids off at school, then went for breakfast with Daddy Ting, before coming home to start on work, meals and you know, SAHM stuff. I was doing pretty well.

Then I started getting orders for some hae been hiam cookies that I had been R&D-ing for fun. Friends ordered and more friends ordered and they told their friends about it, then BOOM. What had I created? Hahaha. What a steep learning curve into the F&B industry. It was insane the first week, I was surviving on fumes, then I finally settled into the 2nd week and now we’ve got a system going on.

Donald and I started getting some time to ourselves as the kids stayed over at their grandparents’. One weekend, we slept in till 11am before we roused ourselves up. It had been YEARS since we slept in so late. We went out for meals a lot more, debating if we should try this cafe or that, before ending up at the food centre with a teh-c and a bowl of noodles. Cheap and good. It was the company that was important.

It made me wonder if this was what life was like without kids. And would we be happy without the four kids? I dunno. It’s hard to imagine life without the kids. That honeymoon period of 7 yrs together seemed another lifetime ago.

I told Donald this morning, I must be crazy thinking I want to do more, and I probably have the capacity to do more. Just like how I told him I must be crazy to want to do this cookie business, on top of running two other businesses and the four kids. There are some trade offs, but I would like to think I am getting better at managing it now. I hope! Okok, I really need to get back into the exercising game. All those food and tasting is gonna make me fat soon (as if I have not put on enough weight).

2020 went by in the blitz. Was it forgettable? No, in fact I am in wonder at the type of stuff we encounter, not experienced. Our grandparents went through the war n post war, but our encounters are one of a different kid. It was also a year I cooked so much stuff that I never knew I could cook. Talk about stepping out of the box! It’s like cooking just so I can and can say I did it LOL. I’m glad the kids took the food gamely, we had some fun, especially making pearls for our BBT, and having churros and muah chi.

It made us closer as a family. Because we wanted to reduce as much contact with others as much as possible, it was really just us. We only started heading out in July and we took the kids to a secluded park to get some air (Tampines Eco Green) and then it sparked other walks and outdoor experiences, cycling distances got further, the boys endurance was tested. It was amazing.

The kids are growing up alot more. The boys have their birthdays in the next couple of weeks, Alex started school and is adapting well. And Sarah has gotten taller (FINALLY).

What about me? I’ve finally scored some me-time for 3 hours, still trying to manage my projects and life. But definitely doing more self-care. Not about the spas, facials type of self-care, but taking rest when needed, making sure that my sanity is suitable to raise kids (not be all shrieky and screamy), and definitely making sure there is ALWAYS ice cream in the freezer.

Hope all of you are coping well at the beginning of the year.

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Day 276/2020: revisiting

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Oh hi. It’s definitely been a while. Ah lau has berated me that I should do something about this blog cos I keep paying for the domain šŸ˜‚

Okay la, and I should use this space properly too. Now that the kids have grown up a little, I have a wee bit more time to myself. I missed writing in a space. The time for sitting down to ponder and then write has been taken over by work.

These days, I have a pocket for 40 mins whilst putting the boys to bed. Might as well use it wisely!

The four playing a boardgame, or at least trying to

The kids have grown. So many things have happened in past year. Sarah just celebrated her 4th birthday and we have Alex’s 2nd birthday coming up. Quentin will head to P1 next year.

Covid happened and we missed out on a pre-primary holiday in Perth. However we did Taipei last year shortly after my last post. Alex was about 9 months old then. Ah lau worked from home since the Circuit Breaker and it might be an indefinite thing. I am still working through life, tho very contented with where I am at. Just..trying to manage expectations, raise my kids and be a wife, in a midst of trying to make sense of things.

Yet in amidst it all, it has been an amazing ride, with a family that God has blessed me with to accompany.

I’ve also taken the opportunity to embark on a collaboration with Thermos! I will be posting some recipes using the Thermos ShuttleChef, tumblers and food jars to cook. Haven’t looked back since I started. These few products have led me to exploring recipes that I never thought I would try. Not only that, it doesn’t use any electricity, and I don’t have to spend time watching the pot!

I’m still constantly looking for shortcuts/hacks to make life easier for myself. You are looking at a very no frills person here haha.

Not only that, I’m still working on my zero-waste lifestyle, using various items that I have at home (not buying new stuff!) and incorporating it in our family. Currently, we have a recycling box at home and we reuse alot of food packaging that comes from food products that we purchase (though trying harder to buy more from the wet market). Also trying a little more to make pantry items by ourselves, like granola and nut butters.

Time to dust off this blog, and write more. See you guys around!

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Day 226: sleep & motherhood memes

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the brood, circa Aug 2019

last night, I slept at about 9.30pm.

After a week of high fever, roseola and then back to fever AND a cold, Alex slept better, waking up every 4-5 hourly, which meant I had more sleep. That was how I woke up this morning at 6.30am feeling like a decent human being. 9 hours of sleep. Good grief. How to sleep so early every night siah haha.

The house looks terrible. With Alex crawling all over the place, there were palm and foot prints all over the place. I couldn’t really swiff the living room properly, cos the playmat was right smack in the middle of it. Mopping wasn’t really an option either. Didn’t help that Alex is super clingy these days after her sick stint, which effectively meant I was doing everything with a baby on my hip.

But really, the clean up is not so much of a priority. The house is not that dirty (I promise you, my friends, if you come visit). I have a fairly high standard of cleanliness hahah. Clean uniform/clothes, keeping the kids alive, are top of the priority.

So in between packing my suitcase for the multiple guilt trips, pondering about life, freaking out slightly about our #YOLO trip to Taipei, I scrolled through the multiple Facebook parenting groups I am in and laugh about the memes about parenthood/motherhood. After four kids, I have my version about what they don’t tell you about being pregnant and life post pregnancy.

1)Ā  Breastfeeding for moms.

Not only do you have to deal with engorged boobs, or mastitis, lack of supply, feeding position, say hello to a hunched back. I..don’t have the luxury of getting a nursing chair, budget or space wise. Maybe in the early days when the laundry doesn’t really pile up on the only other chair in my room. At some point in time, you do what helps easiest. Pick baby up from the cot, sit at the edge of my bed and feed. Instead of bringing baby to my chest, I usually hunch over to latch. Sure, I could probably lift them when they are newborns. But how to lift an 8kg baby?? I do see a lovely chiro at Kissun Chiropractic, they sort out my back.

2) Babywearing

I wrote in a post before, about how mummies need to be not only educated about proper support for baby, but also for the mummy. How improper babywearing could also lead to poor posture to counterbalance the weight. I am not saying babywearing has lead to me getting cervical spondylosis, but it could have been one of the factors cos I use the phone a lot (cue sticking your head forwards alot more to look at the phone), I carry my kids improperly (with or without a carrier) and I use the computer a lot in my younger days (compounded).

3) Mummy the contortionist

Given the way you would be sleeping when you have kids in the bed, dear mummies, you are wonderful contortionists. Marvel at how you can squeeze your side to the edge of the bed whilst sleeping and not fall off. Wonder in disbelief as you can twist your body to side latch a baby and yet still allow your toddler to sleep on your jelly belly. Co-sleep, and more often than not, we are curling towards our little ones. How to sleep straight or in a proper position leh??

Cirque du Soleil hiring? hahah

4) Rich/Poor diet

Damn if you look after yourself, damn if you don’t look after yourself. Kidney stones aren’t the only stones that can appear in your body. Say hello to its cousin, gallstones.

According to the surgeon who was attending to me for gallstones, gallstones can appear if you have had a rich diet whilst pregnant. I didn’t really have a rich diet, but I had a poor diet during my latest pregnancy, which meant a lot of junk food. And gallstones formed. OMG, I was in such pain during one of the attacks. Worse was not being able to get the stones out earlier because I had just only popped. FML. Fortunately I didn’t have any attacks in between the time I got diagnosed and the surgery to remove my gallbladder.

5) Exercising

When crunches and ab curls could be bad for you. Get familiar with the termĀ diastasis recti. Multiple pregnancies later, I read about this condition and discovered that I actually do have a gap between my abdo muscles. Whilst pregnant with Alex, I had been trying to strengthen my core to help with labour, incontinence (helloooo pee pads) and my posture. So I guess it did help a little. No, it has got nothing to do with NOT doing postnatal massages, nor not wearing a binder. Wearing a binder doesn’t help to strengthen the muscles. Proper exercise/physio would get the gap closed. In serious cases, an operation may be required. I would like to believe I am not there yet haha.

6) Knee replacement wannabe

All that bobbing baby to sleep? Yep. Dancing from 10pm till 2am at Zouk in heels is nothing. Pfffpt. Bobbing since 2012, bitch please. Now with school pickups, I clock nearly 7000 steps a day with an additional 8kg stuck to me most of the time and rarely get to sit down at home cos I keep walking around the house, constantly clearing stuff or doing chores, or prepping food. I think I do have worn out knees, given the number of times they have buckled slightly whilst walking down stairs or the occasional locking of knee joints causing some sharp pain.

7) the closest thing to a solo vacation

…is getting hospitalised! hahahha.

I’m a SAHM. I don’t have that much of a budget to go on holidays, and I am a kinda clingy mother who wants to spend as much time with my kids possible when we are all happy (not cranky and not when I wanna strangle them cos of that shitty attitude). So solo vacation out of the country is out of the question for me.

Those 5 days under observation for gallstones at CGH, in an A class ward, fully paid for by insurance. BLISS. I don’t have to yell at kids, nor hear the kids fighting. I don’t need to do housework (got housekeeping everyday!). There is a legit reason to be away from the kids. Okay, granted I missed them a lot, they came to visit for an hour or so, then they left. I watched HBO the entire day. Hospital food wasn’t great but hey, I don’t have to cook and clean. The outfit wasn’t fantastic but I’ll take it. It was so nice and peaceful.

I hesitated writing this post. I couldĀ almost hear the ‘see, tell you take care of yourself, you don’t want la’, on the basis that I didn’t do confinement for all of my pregnancies (I don’t believe in them). But I chose to write these cos it didn’t matter whether or not I did confinement, these issues would still appear. These are some of the ‘ugly’ sides of motherhood, that we may need to put up with until at least kiddo grows older. I was even worried about getting pubic symphsis after reading Cindy’s post cos my babies have been on the L scale during my pregnancies.

So yeah, these are the things they don’t tell you about life after having kids! What are yours to add on?

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