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[SC Sept’16] Daddy’s Girl

How apt that this month’s issue of Singapore’s Child would have an article about the role of a father in the parent-child relationship. Especially with the arrival of Sarah two weeks ago!

In particular, the presence of a father in the home not only improved the well-being of girls, it helps in their psychological development and even determines the kind of relationships they seek.”

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After having two boys, we were totally clueless about raising a girl. Daddy Ting had always been adamant that his role only came in when the boys were older. The first years of their lives, he mostly left it up to me to handle the kids. We still co-parent, but I would be the main caregiver and would be the one to cater to the boys emotional and mental needs. With the boys, I had read the book Raising Boys by Stephen Biddulf to brace myself on bringing up the boys. The book had also mentioned that the authoritative father figure role would come into play later in their lives where they started looking for a role model to look up to.

What about girls then? Does that mean that I would be the only person catering to her needs..well, since I would be her authoritative figure? Turns out that Daddy Ting does have a huge role to play in her life. Especially in how she would view the opposite sex as she grows through the various stages of her life. Even how Daddy Ting would treat me as his wife would impact on her views about the opposite sex!

So, AHEM, Daddy Ting, if you want your daughter to find a good man, you gotta treat me better hor! =P

Having said that, we are really in the midst of figuring out how Daddy Ting will eventually play a role in Sarah’s life.

Apart from this article, this month’s issue of Singapore’s Child also covers other topics like home-schooling, helping children deal with death, and how much your baby would cost you (apparently $18k!).

Of course and also not forgetting the giveaways that you can enter, such as:

Beat Bug Kits: BEAT BUGS is an animated series inspired by the music of the Beatles! The series revolves around the charming, funny and adventurous bug pals – Jay, Kumi,Crick, Buzz and Walter. Singapore’s Child is giving away 5 sets of BEAT BUGS Kits – perfect for families to jam together to your favourite Beatles tunes on the show! ;

Nickelodeon Goodie Bags; good grief, I should totally win one of these cos my tv has been LOCKED ON NICK.JR for like 3 years! I barely get to watch other channels..*grumbles*

 – The Amazing Timmy & Tammy Activity Books: the boys absolutely love their series of localised books and will definitely love the activity books!;

and much more giveaways that you can find here!

Disclaimer: tings.sg is the Digital Partner for Singapore’s Child and I received a complimentary issue of the magazine for review purposes. All opinions are solely mine and are written as objectively as possible. 

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[Giveaway] Belly Happy Moments Seminar

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3rd kid. 27 weeks pregnant. And it’s taking the wind outta me. *huffpuff* You would think it would get easier with the nth number of kid but nooooo. 累死我了。We haven’t prepped much yet (no clothes for Sarah! oh nooooes), we’re sorta just waiting haha. Super fail right.

The only thing that got me currently on the edge is how this labour would happen.  For Ollie, it was planned cos he was overdue. That was easy, we knew the date and time to be at the hospital, and he was born within the day. Tadaah. For QT, I went into labour unexpectedly at 34 weeks, and got stuck on my back for 2 days before I could deliver him. Waah..that is ONE delivery I wouldn’t want to go through AGAIN. FML. Let me go past 36 weeks, I happy liao. Please hor pleaaaase.

But hey, having a 3rd kid doesn’t mean I’m more experienced at it. I mean, I sorta know what to expect but shit can always happen. Like getting a low lying placenta again. And wondering why this girl is constantly sitting low at 27 weeks! So I got my support belt on and hope that it would help. But does it…? I dunno. No better time like now to find out I guess!

If you’re like me..still wondering, why not come check out the Belly Happy Moments seminar run by SmartParents?

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Some highlights of the seminar: 

  1. Pointers on achieving a quick and smooth delivery
  2. Advices on the different birth plans you can make
  3. When to worry and what not to worry about during pregnancy
  4. Why the need for special pregnancy care is increasingly important
  5. What are the necessary foetal scans to do
  6. Learn to optimize the chances of having a healthy pregnancy and delivery

The seminar will have the experts from Mt Elizabeth Novena Hospital and KKH speaking, so definitely in safe hands! Details of the seminar are as follows:

Date: Saturday, 23 July 2016
Venue: MAX Atria | Singapore EXPO
Time: 1.00pm to 4.30pm (Registration starts at 1230pm)

Price: $30 per person // $50 per couple
Single ticket allows entry for 1 adult, entitled to 1 goodie bag.
Couple ticket allows entry for 2 adults, entitled to 1 goodie bag.
Light refreshments will be served.

If you think this is the seminar for you, come register here or you can participate in this giveaway & try to win 1 of the 3 couple tickets that I have!

To participate, all you need to do is

1. Like SmartParents on Facebook
2. Like Just some Tings on Facebook
3. Leave a comment here or on my Facebook page. and tell me your EDD, which pregnancy are you in (e.g., 1st time pregnant, 2nd time pregnant..etc) and what your major concerns about your pregnancy.
4. Contest ends 17th July 2016, 2359hrs and winners will be notified by 18th July 2016. Winners will be selected at random.

Disclaimer: The tickets to the seminars are kindly sponsored by SmartParents. Seminars promoted are based on what I believe to be useful to parents. 

[SC July’16] Millenial Parenting

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are you a millennial parent?

are you a millennial parent?

This article in July’s issue of Singapore’s Child about millennial parenting has struck a chord with me. To be honest, I never considered myself to be a millennial. Then again, I am someone who hasn’t quite figured out the Gen Y, Gen X and then millennial terms. Let’s just put me in the ‘confused’ category hahaha.

So who are the millennials?

This group of people largely constitutes of anyone from 16 to 36 years of age, and is a group with seemingly very distinct personalities, lifestyle choices and life philosophies…..A 2014 report found that five in 10 Singaporean millennial parents say they’re intentionally raising their children differently from how they were raised.’

*raises hand* Yup. That’s me alright.

Signs You Are A Millennial Parent:

  1. You are open to challenging traditional parenting norms.
  2. You believe in coming up with your own style
  3. You subscribe to a cause

I can relate to basically all of the above!

Norms? Being a norm in the non-norm. 

Okay, the article did mention that we were probably taking mental notes as a kid as to what I was definitely not going to do to my own kids (namely the caning and punishments). But how far away was I from doing it? Well, let’s just say I’ve kept to 75% of my word, with the other 25% due to frustration when I just snap. If you read my blog long enough, you would know we go by the gentle parenting approach. It doesn’t mean that I remain nice all the time and kiddo doesn’t get to cry, but some days I do know that I have to set the boundaries and if it means tears, there will be tears.

I am also fortunate to have that opportunity to live overseas and babysit some kids, see how friends raise theirs, and discover the various parenting methods that I felt comfortable with. Being internet savvy also meant that we could just simply ‘Google’ up information to affirm what we want to believe or..well, it could lead you the other way and ‘diagnose’ your child with ADHD based on what you were searching for!

We attend pre-natal classes and with it being scientifically backed, of course we become the gurus and go all ‘nononono, the instructor said no water if fully breastfed!‘ to the ‘just a sip to rinse their mouths!’

Confinement? What confinement? I am craving for an ice cream sundae and THOU SHALT GET ME ONE 2 HOURS POST DELIVERY. I believed in a stress-free post delivery recovery period. Being a control freak, I absolutely cannot allow a stranger to tell me what I can and cannot do. Cold water, showers, eating anything and everything I wanted, thankewberrymuch.

The Tings’ Style

I think the best compliment anyone has paid me is telling me that she loves the way I mother my kids and that my kids are blessed.

Wah. That was a MAJOR ego boost. It felt like I was doing something right, amidst some naysaying. Parents are judgemental. I admit that. We go out and we see something happening to a kid (tantrum throwing etc) and we think ‘I’m glad that’s not my kid’ or ‘omg, why is the parent not doing anything?’ So so easy to pass judgements.

Our style is obviously not all new agey. It is pretty much but with a pinch of salt. We’re a mix of the new and old. Certain traditional still works better for us cos of the convenience (eg. feeding vs baby led weaning). At the end of the day, it really boils down to what retains your sanity. There is no one right method. My kid may not adapt to what I want to do anyways. If there’s baby led weaning, how about baby led growing? Let them choose! Nah, new style. The ‘confused’ style.

The CAUSE

Yes. There are a few causes I subscribe to. Being environmentally conscious in our household (err..most of the time hor. Heatwave, pregnant momma needs aircon so please don’t crucify me), lots of freedom to love and to love generously

We have a little recycling box and Ollie knows what goes in there. He knows that sometimes I will take some containers from home to go to the market to take away some food. He knows that we should not use the air conditioning unnecessarily until mommy is melting hahah (just kidding).

The freedom to love. I wish it was this simple but until there is more tolerance, I can see that it will be complicated. Some of the closest friends to us are in a same-sex relationship, and they will be the people who will be there for my kids. For now, my kids look beyond that but one day, they will ask and I will be honest with them. That it is not wrong to love freely.

To love generously. To treat everyone with respect. The kids know their neighbours, they know the wet market vendors and they greet the grandfatherly Muslim cleaner for our block on the way to school with a resounding ‘Ah Tuk!!’ who acknowledges the call with an ‘AYE!’ and a wave. To honestly explain why some people behave the way they do and let them make the judgement call themselves.

So are you a millennial parent? What are your parenting styles? I would definitely love to hear all about it!

Also in this month’s issue: exciting giveaways for the whole family, from Singapore Repertory Theatre’s The Three Little Pigs musical tickets to The Magic Spicebox cookbook, sure to leave your family entertained and their palates satisfied. This is definitely an issue brimming with goodness!

Disclaimer: tings.sg is the Digital Partner for Singapore’s Child and I received a complimentary issue of the magazine for review purposes. All opinions are solely mine and are written as objectively as possible. 

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